It may seem like your ex hates you for cheating on them, and that may be true, but it is also very likely that they still love you in spite of it. Emotions aren’t always cut and dried, so having dueling emotions simultaneously is a more frequent occurrence than probably suspect. So in order to make your ex want you back, Westword suggests that you just emphasize loving your part rather than the hate. And this can be done surprisingly easily.

Wait for your ex to calm down. It isn’t easy to sit idly by while your ex is coming to grips with their emotions, but it is absolutely necessary. While they wrestle with their feelings, you may wish to resort to your own set of activities to take your mind off of the situation. Don’t worry that your ex may be making a resolution to never see you again or to have a revenge fling with someone else; these things are done in the heat of the moment, and rarely endure beyond the initial anger. You also want to emphasize getting your own head on straight. Try to find some emotional equilibrium in your own life.

. It isn’t easy to sit idly by while your ex is coming to grips with their emotions, but it is absolutely necessary. While they wrestle with their feelings, you may wish to resort to your own set of activities to take your mind off of the situation. Don’t worry that your ex may be making a resolution to never see you again or to have a revenge fling with someone else; these things are done in the heat of the moment, and rarely endure beyond the initial anger. You also want to emphasize getting your own head on straight. Try to find some emotional equilibrium in your own life. Have a friend check out your ex. You may not be sure when your ex’s anger has dissipated, so you should have someone you trust to talk to them. Hopefully, your friend can not only find out how they are doing but may be able to help dispel any lingering resentment. Coach your friend on what things may help to make your ex forgive you sooner, like saying how miserable you are that you cheated.

You may not be sure when your ex’s anger has dissipated, so you should have someone you trust to talk to them. Hopefully, your friend can not only find out how they are doing but may be able to help dispel any lingering resentment. Coach your friend on what things may help to make your ex forgive you sooner, like saying how miserable you are that you cheated. Email them a video. A visual presentation showing how unhappy you are because of the breakup is an excellent way to convince your ex you are sincerely apologetic. You might wish to have some other people voice their opinions about your sincerity. An impassioned plea to at least has one more chance to talk things out should be included. You may also wish to put in some photos or videos with some commentary on why those moments meant so much.

A visual presentation showing how unhappy you are because of the breakup is an excellent way to convince your ex you are sincerely apologetic. You might wish to have some other people voice their opinions about your sincerity. An impassioned plea to at least has one more chance to talk things out should be included. You may also wish to put in some photos or videos with some commentary on why those moments meant so much. Drop by with some gifts. Your ex may still be upset, but it is best to face them in person. An apology accompanied by a thoughtful gift may just be the thing to help assuage them long enough to hear out the rest of what you have to say. Pick something you know they will appreciate. If you can’t come up with anything really personal, try a puppy or a kitten. An adorable pet is extremely difficult to reject and having a sensitive animal with you can reduce the chances that there will be another violent argument.

. Your ex may still be upset, but it is best to face them in person. An apology accompanied by a thoughtful gift may just be the thing to help assuage them long enough to hear out the rest of what you have to say. Pick something you know they will appreciate. If you can’t come up with anything really personal, try a puppy or a kitten. An adorable pet is extremely difficult to reject and having a sensitive animal with you can reduce the chances that there will be another violent argument. Discuss the cheating episode. You need to make a sincere apology for what you did. You may not wish to go into the details, but answer your ex’s questions honestly without attempting to hide anything uncomfortable. It will be much worse for your ex to discover more salacious details about your affair at a later date, so get it all out now. Describe why you did it, how sorry you are for it, and promise not to do it again.

. You need to make a sincere apology for what you did. You may not wish to go into the details, but answer your ex’s questions honestly without attempting to hide anything uncomfortable. It will be much worse for your ex to discover more salacious details about your affair at a later date, so get it all out now. Describe why you did it, how sorry you are for it, and promise not to do it again. Offer to do some penance. Even if you are truly sorry, words are often not enough to satisfy an angry partner. Therefore you should offer to do something, anything to show how sorry you are and how committed you are to him/her. You could offer to answer your phone anywhere, anytime in two or three rings if it is your ex. Or you could give it up entirely. Be creative; how convincing you are about being punished for transgressions can have a huge impact on how willing your ex is to take you back.

. Even if you are truly sorry, words are often not enough to satisfy an angry partner. Therefore you should offer to do something, anything to show how sorry you are and how committed you are to him/her. You could offer to answer your phone anywhere, anytime in two or three rings if it is your ex. Or you could give it up entirely. Be creative; how convincing you are about being punished for transgressions can have a huge impact on how willing your ex is to take you back. Stand outside your ex’s house in the rain. If your ex is unwilling to mete out some deserved punishment, then show them how devoted you are to them. Gifts and words might help, but actions are the most impressive. If you have to sacrifice something like your time, money, job, or whatever do it. Waiting outside their door for their forgiveness is a classic way of showing how much you are willing to endure to receive some absolution.